“You do not just wake up and become the butterfly. Growth is progress.”
The one thing I’ll never recommend is the “fake it till you make it attitude” because there’s probably a very slim chance that will actually work for you.
I remember I was sitting down with a friend worrying about an upcoming interview a couple years ago. She told me to just fake it till I made it. I gave her this puzzled look. Her response was that it *eventually* worked for her.
They say dogs can smell fear but people can smell authenticity
I went into that interview a couple days later. I thought, “well if it worked for her then it can work for me.” Guess what happened during my interview? I did terrible! Because you can’t fake confidence. People can tell you’re not confident within minutes.
I left the interview feeling low and worried that I wouldn’t be able to get a job. I was worried and on the verge of freaking out about what to do next. Now what?
After that, I decided I needed some serious help getting ready for interviews. I reached out to a friend and he helped me practice. We did mock interviews where we focused on eye contact, body language, and communication skills. I realized that faking confidence couldn’t cover up the mistakes I was making.
I went into my next round of interviews. I felt more ready and more confident I could get the job.
I still didn’t get the job. But, what I did gain was confidence in my abilities. And that’s a heck of a lot better than going in there and just hoping I could pull it off. I didn’t feel low after this interview because, “hey! If I didn’t get this one then I’ll definitely get the next one.” And I did!
Yes, I eventually got the job! But what I learned from those mock interviews is something I still use two years later.
The only way to truly make it is to take action and invest in yourself every single day. It takes effort, just like any other accomplishment.
“It’s about the journey, not the destination.”