We all have dreams and desires about how we want life to go and when, but sometimes things don’t work out like we plan. Accepting this is one of the hardest things we have to overcome.
However, the truth is, we’ve probably overcome it more times than we know. Did you know that only 10% of people in the United States end up working their dream job. Of that 10%, only 64% said that their dream job met their expectations. So for every 100 people, only 6-7 people are happy with their “dream job.” What we often want in life may not be what’s best for us. In fact, better things come our way when we don’t get what we want.
So the next time something doesn’t go your way, remember to take a step back and evaluate what your other options are. You might be too upset to even think of other solutions right away. Try to ask yourself if this will impact your life in the next 1, 5, or even 10 years. Try talking to a friend or family member about it, write in a journal, or meditate. This will really help you acknowledge your positive and negative thoughts. Acknowledging your thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. t’s recognizing that you have these thoughts. That’s the first step to recognizing that this is an obstacle you can overcome.
A few days ago, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and we started talking about what we wanted to be when we grew up. My friend, Neil, said he wanted to be a doctor and I told him how I wanted to be an undercover spy. We both work in finance now. During our conversation, Neil was telling me how he couldn’t see himself being a doctor because he loves what he does now. He said he just picked medicine because he thought it was the best option at the time. Deep down I still wish I could be an undercover spy, but I’d prob blow my cover in the first 15 minutes. But, the truth is I love what I do now and that 9-5 lifestyle really fits me!
The truth is, not all rejections are going to be as easy to overcome. Some will be hard, but don’t forget that you’re capable of getting through it! Here’s a list of 20 things to remember when rejection hurts.
When was the last time something didn’t go your way and how did you handle it?